Body Wisdom Academy — Advisory Session
You've done the work.
You've read the books.
Something still
hasn't shifted.
That's not a character flaw. That's what happens when healing stays in the mind instead of going into the body. This call changes that.
"I healed more in three months than in the past ten years. After decades of therapy, I was still suffering daily. This got to the root."
— BWA Graduate
Choose Your Time
Advisory Session · 30 Min · Free
What to Expect
What actually happens on this call
Focused entirely on you. Not a presentation about us — a real look at your specific situation and what's actually keeping you stuck.
We get to the root. The patterns that keep showing up no matter what you've tried, the loops that understanding alone hasn't broken.
Complete honesty. If Subtle Body Work is the right fit, we'll tell you. If it isn't, we'll tell you that too. Real. Unhurried. Honest.
You leave with clarity. On your next step — whether that's working with us or not. Individual support and full certification training both available.
What Clients Say
Real people. Real results.
I healed more in three months than in the past ten years. After decades of therapy and tens of thousands of dollars on other techniques, I was still suffering daily. This got to the actual root.
BWA Graduate
I became more connected to my body and suddenly stopped swimming around in my head in repetitive mind stories. In a matter of weeks I found my own apartment — a change I was starting to believe would never come.
Ingrid A.
No one has ever been able to tell me HOW to let something go. With Leslie's teachings there is finally a way to actually find it, get down to it, and remove it. I am so grateful.
Lyla A.
It feels like returning home. Every time I do a module I feel like I'm having a love affair. I'm a healer with years of client work — and I'm already using these tools with my own clients.
Starla, Massage Therapist
The Method & The Woman Behind It
Leslie Huddart, L.Ac.
Subtle Body Expert · Spiritual Guide · Natural Health Clinician
Leslie has over 20 years of clinical experience in natural health and holds a degree in acupuncture and Asian medicine from the top-rated school in the country. She has studied with spiritual masters from and around Japan, India, Thailand, and Tibet — and has helped thousands of women release trauma at the root level without years of therapy.
She developed a proprietary 9-Gateway Subtle Body Healing System that works beyond the mind, liberating stored patterns in the body that talk therapy alone cannot reach.
A Note From Our Managing Director
Meet Marika
Managing Director · Coach Practitioner · Subtle Body Guide · Leslie's Direct Mentee, 5+ Years
I came to this work the same way you probably did. Years of therapy, certifications, self-inquiry. I understood my patterns in embarrassing detail. And I was still stuck.
What changed wasn't more information. It was working at the level of the subtle body — where the patterns actually live. Things I'd intellectually understood for years finally started to move.
The Advisory Session isn't a pitch. It's a real conversation about where you are and what's actually in the way. I want you to leave with clarity — whether you work with us or not.
Is This For You
This call is right for you if...
- You've already done significant healing work — therapy, somatic work, energy healing — and something still hasn't resolved at the root.
- You understand your patterns intellectually but can't seem to make them stop.
- You feel like you're almost there — but keep looping back to the same place.
- You're a healer, empath, or sensitive person ready to stop processing and start actually being free.
- Something in you has quietly been saying this might be different — and you're finally ready to find out.
- You're not sure if this is for you. That uncertainty is exactly what the call is designed for. Book it anyway.
Ready? Choose Your Time.
Still thinking about it?
That's the pattern.
30 minutes. Free. The conversation that finally moves what hasn't moved.
You'll be asked a few short questions when you book. This helps us prepare and make sure the conversation is genuinely useful for you. If you're unsure whether you qualify — book and answer honestly. We'll let you know.
Healing Truths
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Guide for Empaths
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Dating for Empaths
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Chronic Pain
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Spiritual but Not Religious
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
Leslie Huddart L.Ac.
Healthy Conflict | What To Do When You Upset Someone
I'm going to give you three key things that you need to not only deal with conflict, but maybe even prevent it.
The benefit of knowing this information is that you can finally be calmer as you're going through a conflict or kind of rough conversation process.
Stop losing sleep, stop worrying about what's happening because most of us avoid conflict above all else.
The truth is that conflict is really a part of life. If you can master these skills around conflict, your leadership, your interpersonal success will grow and grow exponentially.
Now, conflict is not really a super party fun subject for most people. Most people avoid and fear conflict kind of like the plague. I'm sure it's up there close to public speaking and death on fears and things that people don't want to deal with. But the truth is, is that conflict happen.
Actually just the other day, I got an email from someone. We're both working on this group project of this organization that I'm loosely involved with and another woman is in charge of things.
She asked me to help out and I did something that we hadn't discussed and she was like, "Wow, I'm really surprised that you did that. I don't really want you to do that" and I got this email just before I went to bed.
Thankfully, I've been practicing over the years because conflict isn't something that always was super easy for me. I now have a comfort and actually kind of like a curiosity sometimes with conflict that helps me to regulate my system around that.
What's Going On Inside Yourself
The first key skill when conflict is happening is that you need to notice what's going on inside yourself.
Now this might seem simple, but it's not. This is a combination of several mind-body skills. This involves two major mind-body-spirit system components.
One of which you have more control over. The other one not so much.
This falls into the realm of mindfulness or the ability to really monitor and move your attention through different parts of what you're feeling, which means not just your thoughts, but maybe also your emotions or the sensations that are happening in your body. This as a global term we call Mindfulness.
You have to be able to have a certain level of mind-body connection that's working well. Now part of this is a little bit out of your control. This is what I would call the "state of your mind body system".
Our mind-body-system or our Subtle Body has a technical wiring or a way that it works. For some people that's not well- honed.
Maybe there's been some damage, maybe there's been some trauma.
To a certain degree you have control over your mindfulness. That's always a skill that you can build and heal. It also depends on the current state of your subtle body.
If mindfulness feels very, very difficult for you, that may be a sign that you have some subtle blocks and need to work with someone who knows about those. This is what I do in my job, so I know these things very well.
The other part is something that you totally have control about and that is your Observer Mind. Your ability to instead of focusing outward, to turn that around and look inwards and have this experience of, "Huh, that's interesting", and notice what happens inside of you before you react.
This is the key foundation for dealing with conflict because if you don't have this mindfulness in yourself, you automatically go into reaction, which usually makes the conflict a lot worse.
So number one skill, you've got to be able to notice yourself in that mind-body-spirit kind of integrated component with your Observer Mind. Number two, you need to notice or track what's happening with the other person.
Now, this doesn't mean you have to know exactly. You don't have to be psychic to know what's happening with them, but you have to kind of pay attention.
If you're in-person with them, you can notice, does their body language shift and get more tense? Did they kind of lose their train of thought? Did something shift with them after you said something that gives your inner awareness, that Observer Mind a little marker that "Wait a minute, something's happening with this person". This is a key skill for navigating conflict.
What's Happening With The Other Person
Now, number two is something that empaths and sensitive people do well. We're really good at tracking with what is happening with the other person.
But if you're an empathic person, you feel like, "Oh, I track too much with the other person", go back to step number one and make sure not only are you aware of where and how you're doing on the inside, but make sure that you haven't disassociated, or jumped out of your body energetically.
You need both of those. Tracking with someone else is not enough, and just tracking with yourself also is the most important, but you need both of those components.
Go Back!
Number three, you need the verbal ability to go back and reference things objectively.
What this means is actually practicing the verbal skill. I teach this a lot in what I call Energetic Communication of going back to the scene of the crime as it were, the scene of the offense or the conflict, and describing things very objectively so that what that means is giving an objective play by play.
"Hey, when I sent you that email, I noticed that your response seemed a little bit heated" or "When I said that thing about your mother-in-law, I noticed that you stop talking and I'm wondering if there's something going on or if I offended you in some way".
There's three basic components that we're using in this last describing the situation.
Remember, their objective and the basic framework is THIS THING HAPPENED, I NOTICED THIS or I FELT THIS IN MYSELF, and I'M JUST CHECKING WITH YOU WHAT HAPPENED.
Those three components, this happened when this happened, this is what I noticed what seemed to be happening with you or what was most importantly happening with me and here's a question to someone else and to get the feedback of what's actually happening.
If you can start to develop these three skills, your ability with conflict in your success in life and interpersonal relationships will skyrocket and remember, you don't have to do it all at once.
It's little by little. What I do for myself is every time I have a difficult conversation with someone, what I'm looking for in myself is just, "Did I do it a little better than I did it last time?"
Only use yourself as the guide and you'll find your own success.
I would love to be of service to you on your personal and spiritual growth path. I am sending you lots of love!
--->RELEASE THE TRAPPED TRAUMA FROM YOUR BODY (WITHOUT YEARS OF THERAPY)<---
Disclaimer: This program is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health or counseling services. No practitioner-patient relationship is established and the training content is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA and nothing here is intended to diagnose, cure or treat any disorders.
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